Self-esteem is about how you feel, and the thoughts you have, about yourself. If you were asked to write a list of all the ways you would describe yourself, what would you say?
People with healthy self-esteem:
- generally feel good about themselves and their accomplishments
- have pride in the things they do well
- can put into perspective the areas that they are not so pleased with
- feel more confident to try new things and challenge themselves
- are not frightened of failure.
People with low or unhealthy self-esteem will:
- focus more on their perceived faults, failures and lack of success in their lives
- overlook their successes or minimise the areas of their lives where they have achieved great things
- be more hesitant to try new things or meet new people, for example, starting a new job or beginning university, or going out socially.
Improving my self-esteem
Getting to know yourself and having a good look at all the things you like and don't like, are good at and not so good at, and accepting all of these, can help improve your self-esteem. This is a great start towards feeling happy with yourself and where you are right now.
Other things that can help include:
- celebrating your successes
- surrounding yourself with good friends
- being a good friend yourself
- doing what you love
- trying new things
- being able to walk away
- enjoying special times
- accepting yourself for who you are
- working out what is really worth caring about.
Where to get help
Creating and maintaining healthy self-esteem is up to you, but there are people and resources who can help you along the way:
- beyondblue Support Service
Talk – 1300 22 4636
- Kids Helpline
Talk – 1800 55 1800
Talk – 13 11 14