Support someone experiencing domestic and family violence
What you can do to support someone experiencing domestic and family violence
If someone you know is experiencing domestic and family violence, you can help by:
- inviting them to talk in a place where they feel safe
- listening to what they have to say and believing them
- assuring them that the violence is not their fault
- focusing on their safety and their children’s safety
- giving them information on what help is available
- letting them know if you plan to ask for professional advice to be able to help them
- continuing your support even if they don't want to make any immediate changes
- assuring them that you will be ready to help when they need it.
Don’t:
- blame them
- tell them what they should do
- make negative comments about the abusive person
- confront the abusive person.
What if there are children?
The effects of domestic and family violence on children are serious—even if the child isn’t the target of the violence or abuse.
If your friend or family member has children, you should tell them that you’re concerned about the effect the violence or abuse has on the children.
You can also:
- provide support to the children
- assure them that it’s not their fault
- let them know that violence or abuse is never OK.
If you are the parent or guardian of a child growing up in an abusive household, you could also:
- tell them that they are loved and the violence is not their fault
- encourage them to talk about their worries
- make sure they know how to call for help, including how to call the police on Triple Zero (000) and how to give the address of their home
- get support from a domestic violence organisation
- talk to a teacher, principal or a counsellor about your concerns
- take yourself and your child to a safe place if necessary.
Remember, your safety is the priority.
Further information
Download a brochure with further information about how to support someone who is experiencing domestic and family violence:
